MARRIAGE COUNSELLING
Finding the right therapist in Vaughan and York region cities such as Concord, Maple, Woodbridge, Kleinberg, Markham, New Market, Richmond Hill can be hard, but we can help! For Individual, children family and couples counselling! We value finding good matches for a client and giving clients knowledge about mental health, which is why we post weekly blogs about mental health.
There are, unfortunately, few studies on marriage among the LGBTQ community. However, this blog tries to incorporate information that applies to all. Research that does look into same and different-sex marriages noted that most difference in marriage satisfaction in different sex marriage comes from power differences created by society (Garcia, & Umberson, 2019).
In almost all marriages, one will have good and bad moments with their partner (Boerner, Jopp, Carr, Sosinsky, & Kim,2014). Sometimes, it is complicated, and one can feel both good and bad from a partner’s interaction, for instance, one may be annoyed when their partner tells them to do something, but they might feel good if they know they are only telling them because they want the best for them (Carr, Freedman, Cornman., & Schwarz, 2014). A therapist at Vaughan Counselling and Psychotherapy Inc can help couples navigate these instances. Research shows that one's overall feeling about their marriage affects the individual's well being, their partner's wellbeing, and their partner's opinion on the marriage (Carr, Freedman, Cornman., & Schwarz, 2014). Positive feelings about the marriage will result in positive wellbeing for both parties and similarly, negative feelings about the marriage will cause negative wellbeing, but unfortunately, the magnitude of the negative effect is a lot greater than the positive (Boerner, Jopp, Carr, Sosinsky, & Kim,2014). Partners influence one another, possibly due to simple reactions to their own emotions, for instance, when dissatisfied they may be more distant. This is especially evident in long term relationships where partners are good at picking up one another’s feelings (Carr, Freedman, Cornman., & Schwarz, 2014). Therefore, therapists need to get input from both parties on their view of marital satisfaction (Garcia, & Umberson, 2019). With that said, some may have an easier time mentioning distress in the marriage while others might have a harder time disclosing such emotions, the therapists at Vaughan Counselling and Psychotherapy Inc. can help both parties navigate and express their emotions.
Interestingly, when asking of how an individual treated their partner and was treated, individuals l rated the way they treated their partner the same but in different-sex marriage men and women described how their partner treated them, differently, this is relevant as it may be due to expectations individuals build around “roles” their partner should play in a marriage (Boerner, Jopp, Carr, Sosinsky, & Kim,2014). Therapists will help address these expectations and their validity.
There are many reasons one may feel dissatisfied with their marriage, such as pent-up anger, not being able to come to an agreement on things, or cheating, and marriage counselling can help. Marriage counselling does not mean one is losing in their marriage, but rather the choice to build the marriage stronger (Stritof, 2021).
Svetlana and Sumbul are great therapists at Vaughan Counselling and Psychotherapy Inc, who provide marriage counselling throughout Ontario - Vaughan, Woodbridge, Newmarket, Toronto, York, Hamilton, and London. They will encourage communication in relationships and use specific modalities based on the client's needs such as Emotion Focused Therapy (Read more about it in our other blog https://www.vaughanpsychotherapist.com/blog/what-is-emotion-focused-therapy-eft), Gottman Method, Solution Focused Therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy.
For more information on Marriage Counselling or if you would like to book an appointment with one of our therapist, please give us a call at 647-267-9853 or email us at info@vaughanpsychotherapist.com